Words of Marriage Wisdom

Continuing from the last post, girls, here are the tips for you!

Life Changing Tips for Woman in Relationship

• Offer more compliments on his talent, ability and personality
  • SbR’s Take: I call this EGO BOOST!
• Offer more acceptance, less criticisim, less “uninvitated advice”. Focus on his strength, hard work and improvements.
  • SbR’s Take: I am working on this! This is the hardest for me a major blabber mouth!
• Prioritize your needs which you require his assistance and only ask for assistance in those that is the most important to you.
  • SbR’s Take: I think most guys can stand girls who needs him to be there every single moment, for every single decision and every slightest problems. They surely don’t enjoy parasites!
• If he don’t mind, accompany him in his interest and favourite activities.
  • SbR’s Take: He rejected my offer to pick up golf because I am whiney. HAHA. But I learn to enjoy the music he listens! SODA GREEN.
• If he don’t mind, kiss and hug him more often to express your love.
  • SbR’s Take: Be warned, most guys don’t like PDA! I always give him a quick peck when we parted. One, two, three, AWWWWW. HAHA.
• There is a Chinese saying, (BAD TRANSLATION ALERT) “To capture a man’s heart, first capture his stomach”!
  • SbR’s Take: HAHA. I think this is true! But I’m in deep shit because he is a better cook than I am!
• Fulfill his sexual needs more (I am assuming this is for married couples!)
  • SbR’s Take: Guys, don’t thank me for this and remember to read MPC Lesson #3a!
• Treat his family and friends with love and kindness
  • SbR’s Take: This is why he always ask me to eat fruits and watch TV together with his family! Family time! Haha.

Girls, try them and let me know how it goes!

Here are the LIFE changing tips for men and women in relationships! I love that I record these tips and lessons I learn from Marriage Preparation Course in SbR! In the future when I need to be reminded I can go back to these lessons again!

Once again, these points from translated (by me!) from Mandarin to English, so please do bear with me!

Life Changing Tips for Man in Relationship

• When she is troubled, put down the things on hand and listen attentively. Do not rush in giving her opinions or solutions.
  • SbR’s Take: AMEN! Please put down your iPhone, magazine or newspaper and look at us instead of the computer screen! When you look at us, we will associate this with 100% concentration on us! And boy, do we love that!
• Offer praises and compliments and specify her strengths. E.g “This dish you cooked is yummy!” or “You look great in your new dress!”
  • SbR’s Take: We like it when you point out something specific so that we know you are not just patronizing us. Hehe.
• Call or SMS her regularly so that she knows she is in your mind.
  • SbR’s Take: I personally don’t like to chat on the phone but a two minutes chat just to ask how my day went or a quick SMS makes me happy! So yes, this works!
• Give her a warm hug regularly.
  • SbR’s Take: I love a warm hug / cuddle! Nothing too suggestive/sexual, just an innocence warm hug!
• Offer to do housework or services (e.g bringing her tea, massage etc)
  • SbR’s Take: YES! Including the dishes too! Hehe.
• Remember her birthday and other important occasions
  • SbR’s Take: This is BASIC! Birthday, Valentine’s Day, Dating Anniversary, Proposal Anniversary and Wedding Anniversary etc. HAHA. Ok, I don’t think we will ever celebrate dating or proposal anniversary but won’t it be sweet if he remember and simply send you a sweet message, writes you a card or give you a stalk of rose! It’s the thoughts that counts!
• Occasionally buy/make her favourite sweet small gifts for her
  • SbR’s Take: Yes! We don’t need diamonds or bags for every occasion. Sometimes a simple and sweet item may just work! We are not gold diggers!
• Treat her family and friends with love and kindness
  • SbR’s Take: Family and friends acceptance are very important! That is why we have random get together with our besties and our plus one!

Girls, do you agree these tips work?! Which one is your favourite? You may want to accidentally share these tips with your guy! HAHA.

Up next, girls, we have some tips for you to make your man feel love as well!

It has been more than two months when I last shared about the lessons I had in my marriage preparation class. I am a major procrastinator! In this sharing, it is about the differences in men and women and how these differences can lead to conflicts if understanding is not established.

Of course, these are general observations by a psychology professor in his gender studies and there can be exceptions in these characteristics. These are all taught in mandarin so the translated version (by me) may not be 100% accurate, but you can probably get the drift while reading! Read the rest of this entry »

We attended our first Marriage Preparation Course (MPC) conducted by our church yesterday and I thought I’ll share some words of wisdom for all married or to-be-married couples.

In marriage we can enjoy:-

• Companionship
  • The LORD God said, “It is not good for the man to be alone. I will make a helper suitable for him.” Genesis 2:18, NIV
  • I can attest to that! I love spending time with him! The good and the bad! Whining about work, sharing good news, enjoying dinners and enjoying his presence.
• Assistance
  • The LORD God said, “It is not good for the man to be alone. I will make a helper suitable for him.” Genesis 2:18, NIV
  • I’m helpless in Math and I met an engineer. I can’t write for nuts, his flair in writing is undeniable. I’m messy and grubby; while he’s neat and a clean freak. He is thrifty and I taught him the joy of spending. We are different like chalk and cheese but we filled each other’s shortcomings and flaws.
• Union
  • For this reason a man will leave his father and mother and be united to his wife, and they will become one flesh. Genesis 2:24, NIV
  • Two is stronger than one and the union of two is stronger than two on its own. We will learn to give each other the support we need and to think as one entity.
• Fulfillment
  • For this reason a man will leave his father and mother and be united to his wife, and they will become one flesh. Genesis 2:24, NIV
  • One man, one woman. One husband, one wife. We will enjoy sexual life with one and no other.
• Belongingness
  • So they are no longer two, but one. Therefore what God has joined together, let man not separate. Matthew 19:6 (NIV)
  • We have a place call home. Not merely a physical place call home, but a place in each other’s heart in this lifetime.

Dear Lord,

May we remember your beautiful teachings in the many years to come and may these words give strength and love to all married couples out there to cherish each other.

In Jesus name we pray, Amen.

P.S: I translated and summarized these from a 100% Mandarin lesson. Hopefully it is accurate! Hee.