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I hope the guys are not all stressed up before Valentine’s day because when I logged in Facebook today, almost every attached/married women are putting up all the pictures of their “surprised” grandest, largest, most expensive bouquets which their love ones gave them or sent it to their office! To my horror, one of them even took a picture of all her colleagues’ flowers and commented that hers is the biggest and most beautiful! Is this a day for bouquet comparing competition?

Don’t be mistaken, I am not a Grinch of Valentine’s Day, I appreciate that today is a day to remind us on our love ones (husband, friends, families, dogs etc) but I don’t see the value in spending $100 and $200 dollars for a bunch of flowers when they usually cost half the price on other days. I love flowers and I do appreciate flowers but spending $100 – $200 dollars on a bouquet? I love money more! Haha.

You can call me an unromantic, but I believe romantic acts need not be expensive, it just has got to be creative or heart warming! I personally feel that it is more meaningful to give flowers on special days like Wedding Anniversary or Birthday (HINT HINT). Haha. But surely not on an over-hyped Valentine’s day? I bet after 6pm today, all the pictures of food at expensive restaurants serving up “V-Day special set meal” will come flooding through the FB walls! Haha.

So to share what we did to commemorate Valentine’s day, here’s what happened. Initially he placed a reservation at an expensive French restaurant, but thinking that it is our first Valentine’s day as a married couple, we will do something special (and to save some bucks after bursting our banks on honeymoon and wedding).

We decided to celebrate on Sunday evening and were all dressed up for our dinner which was held at Parc Lumiere’s private alfresco dining space. Haha. Our balcony!

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All dressed up in suit! I can finally use the little vase I lugged home from Korea for our candle light dinner. Haha.

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We danced to our church wedding compilations, ate this awesome rib-eye steak which was grilled to perfection with home-made teriyaki sauce (no less), drank a good red, and ate this amazing tiramisu made by yours truly (Which I will share the recipe in the next post)! The best part about dining at your own balcony? You don’t have to wait at the taxi stand in your heels with half of our population in town, or get caught up in a jam on your way home, or drag your tired feet back after dinner or be caught in a resturant with cheesy love songs (which happened to us one year), or listen to other patron’s talking about random stuffs (which also happened to us one year when the restaurant increased their seats for this occasion)! Instead, we made out immediately after dinner! Haha. Isn’t it awesome! We both agreed that this was the best Valentine’s day celebration ever!

//I’m assuming my readers are all of age here. Heh.

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This beef was cooked to perfection. Medium rare, tender, tasty and all so awesome. I tried taking a picture using flash. but it freaking looks like a piece of chicken. Heh.

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Flash kills it all.

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My amazing Tiramisu!

So guys, you don’t have to fret on what flowers to buy, which restaurant to go, what present to give, it is the little things you do that touches your girl’s heart (excluding materialistic girls)! And you know what? People at Google agree with me too! Have you seen their mini-clip above their search bar? I took some screen shots in case some of you missed it!

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This boy tried giving the girl every cliche Valentine’s day present possible but the girl is unmoved.

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The boy gave up and ended up joining her in rope skipping and immediately the girl stopped and gave him a hug. (Moral of story, do what the girl’s enjoy doing! )

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So spread your love around, to your friends, family, pets, alien friends and what not! Have fun!

As for today, we decided to eat in to avoid the crowd with some home cook food and have an in-house mini movie night! Haha. Yes, maybe we are behaving like an old couple already.

Anyway, Happy Valentine’s Day!

Ooo. I found the link! Haha.

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He told me he got a surprise present for me and he brought home this! When probed further, he admitted that he got this from a supplier. Hah. This is marriage life for you. HAHA. Happy Chinese Valentine!

I read an article on Telegraph about a research done on 2,000 happily married couples which identified the key factors in maintaining a blissful marriage.

Here are some key factors which the 2,000 couples shared. As a newly married couple, we do have a lot to learn. I have dissected the article and break them down into categories. Have fun reading!

Make time for one another

  • Go on a short break together twice a year [We maintained this practice too!]
  • Eat out in restaurants at least three times a month [Baby, see it’s not that I’m a glutton!]
  • Arrange for at least five movie nights at home instead of spending the usual evening fighting over the remote control or disagreeing about what to watch [We disagree over what to watch on cable TV all the time! I love my CSI, NCIS, Hawaii-5-O, Criminal Minds and he loves all the food related channels. Perhaps a movie night might solve this problem!]

Show Physical Affection

  • Share a lingering kiss six times a week [We try to kiss each other goodbye every morning]
  • Have sex twice a week [No comment. Hah.]

Give words of affection

  • Say “I love you” up to nine times a fortnight [We do that via whatsapp, does that count?]

Have meaningful conversations

  • At least one healthy argument a week to ensure they resolve anything which is bothering them [Healthy is the key word in this sentence.]

Give each other space

  • Allow a night out with friends instead of their other half

Little Romantic Gestures

  • Cook a nice meal, take their spouse a cup of tea in bed three times a month [I should do this more often!]

Give and Take

  • Never go to bed on an argument
  • Try to turn a blind eye to irritating habits and accept each other’s fault [HEY BABY, LOOK HERE]
  • Know when to say sorry [I know sorry it’s the hardest word to say, but it is also the magic word. If you can use it to turn things around, you are a magician!]
  • Share household chores equally [I’m the lazy one, so yes, this is for me.]
  • Compromising on television schedule [I’m also the TV addict. Shucks.]

Other factors

  • Friendship with your spouse is more indicative to a successful marriage than the initial love at first sight [We are building our friendship daily, he is like my irritating roommate. HAHA.]
  • Support each other and being kind
  • Being honest
  • Retaining a degree of secrecy [A little conflicting ya. Haha.]

What about yours? What makes your relationship successful?

I’m on leave today and I’m glad he put down the curtain so I can sleep till 10.30! It is these small loving acts that make you feel special!

I’m going to upload some of my favourite wedding pictures taken by Gabriel from One Eye Click! Stay tuned!

I woke up to a deafening sound of silence on a very blue Monday.

I miss you already!

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I’m blessed to marry a man who can cook and who can cook well! Homemade Pork Patty sandwich with egg! It was yummy and it is worthy of a blog post. HAH.

// This is not intended to be an advertorial, but I guess, to hit my October quota before I fly off to Italy for my honeymoon!

I have the sweetest friends on Earth and sometimes I feel like I don’t deserve such awesome friends!

For one, I have this amazing friend, Chengwei, who took time to create a secret parcel filled with this century old wedding custom inspired by her latest favorite book and movie and mail it to me as a surprise! Not only that, she wrote a post at her blog dedicated to me! Awwww!!! Most of what is here is from her blog because she writes so well!

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A parcel filled with…

“Something old, something new,
Something borrowed, something blue,
And a silver sixpence in her shoe.”

Inside the parcels ,each item is supposed to bring good luck to me and a happy marriage!

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Something Old: A link of continuity to the bride’s past. It also represents the life being left behind to start a new beginning, but not forgetting where she has been and her family values.

She gave me a book which she bought them second hand!

Something New: Optimism and hope for the future. It conveys the bride’s wish to creating a union that will endure the test of time.

She gave me a necklace and handcream which are new! Haha.

Something Borrowed: Borrowing an item from a happily married woman to borrow her luck. It also symbolizes the love and adoration she has for the person she borrowed the item from, and that the bride can count on her family and friends for love and support.

She lend me another book which she loves!

Something Blue: A symbol of love, modesty, fidelity, luck, purity, loyalty.

The necklace she gave me is blue!

A Lucky Sixpence in her Shoe: A representation of the bride’s wealth and financial security. For optimal results, the sixpence should be worn in the left shoe.

I love this little trinklet best! According to Cheng wei, sixpence is almost equivalent to six pennies, six British cents, which is almost 20 Singapore cents! HAHA.

Thank you babe, for creating a parcel which is somethingforme, somethingIcansmileabout and all for somethingaboutrenes!

And yes, I will try to have an enjoyable wedding day (attempting to ignore all the perfectionist bride in me) and I will not forget my beloved SSSS. You girls are so special to me and I agree, somethingsdon’tchange!

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He bought me lilies and I love it! It smells awesome! Thank you baby!

I’m on leave today because my poor boy went for his wisdom tooth extraction today and we always take leave for each other when we have wisdom tooth extraction!

“What’s the sticky glue behind all successful couples? I don’t think it’s lust – humans are easily tempted by other people. I don’t think it’s legal terms either – if not why do the number of divorce cases increase exponentially. I don’t think it’s money - it’s a well-known fact that women having increasingly high purchasing powers. I don’t think it’s faith – there are people of similar faiths and yet they split. I don’t think it’s commitment – this is a term which young people like myself take very lightly. So, is it love? I don’t think so either – because I know people who were crazily in love (like IcannotdowithoutyouifnotIwilldie-kind of love) and yet they still split eventually.

After eliminating all these factors, in my opinion, the answer might be forgiveness. Maybe when one learn to forgive the other for his/her shortcomings – only then they stay together.”

- SA (her blog address is private but her words of wisdom is worth sharing)

I am reposting a good friend’s blog post here because I totally agree with her and love it! Some may not agree but I think it is so true! Even though she is not the best person to give love advice (HAHAHA, don’t kill me girl) but if it is true from the heart, it is true. Similar to God’s love, it is also His grace and forgiveness which often holds us and pull us back into the light. I love it because it serves as a good reminder for us all!

What do you think? What in your opinion is the sticky glue in your relationship?


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