He told me he got a surprise present for me and he brought home this! When probed further, he admitted that he got this from a supplier. Hah. This is marriage life for you. HAHA. Happy Chinese Valentine!

Here are some key factors which the 2,000 couples shared. As a newly married couple, we do have a lot to learn. I have dissected the article and break them down into categories. Have fun reading!

Make time for one another

• Go on a short break together twice a year [We maintained this practice too!]
• Eat out in restaurants at least three times a month [Baby, see it’s not that I’m a glutton!]
• Arrange for at least five movie nights at home instead of spending the usual evening fighting over the remote control or disagreeing about what to watch [We disagree over what to watch on cable TV all the time! I love my CSI, NCIS, Hawaii-5-O, Criminal Minds and he loves all the food related channels. Perhaps a movie night might solve this problem!]

Show Physical Affection

• Share a lingering kiss six times a week [We try to kiss each other goodbye every morning]
• Have sex twice a week [No comment. Hah.]

Give words of affection

• Say “I love you” up to nine times a fortnight [We do that via whatsapp, does that count?]

Have meaningful conversations

• At least one healthy argument a week to ensure they resolve anything which is bothering them [Healthy is the key word in this sentence.]

Give each other space

• Allow a night out with friends instead of their other half

Little Romantic Gestures

• Cook a nice meal, take their spouse a cup of tea in bed three times a month [I should do this more often!]

Give and Take

• Never go to bed on an argument
• Try to turn a blind eye to irritating habits and accept each other’s fault [HEY BABY, LOOK HERE]
• Know when to say sorry [I know sorry it’s the hardest word to say, but it is also the magic word. If you can use it to turn things around, you are a magician!]
• Share household chores equally [I’m the lazy one, so yes, this is for me.]
• Compromising on television schedule [I’m also the TV addict. Shucks.]

Other factors

• Friendship with your spouse is more indicative to a successful marriage than the initial love at first sight [We are building our friendship daily, he is like my irritating roommate. HAHA.]
• Support each other and being kind
• Being honest
• Retaining a degree of secrecy [A little conflicting ya. Haha.]

What about yours? What makes your relationship successful?

I’m going to upload some of my favourite wedding pictures taken by Gabriel from One Eye Click! Stay tuned!

I miss you already!

I’m blessed to marry a man who can cook and who can cook well! Homemade Pork Patty sandwich with egg! It was yummy and it is worthy of a blog post. HAH.

I have the sweetest friends on Earth and sometimes I feel like I don’t deserve such awesome friends!

For one, I have this amazing friend, Chengwei, who took time to create a secret parcel filled with this century old wedding custom inspired by her latest favorite book and movie and mail it to me as a surprise! Not only that, she wrote a post at her blog dedicated to me! Awwww!!! Most of what is here is from her blog because she writes so well!

A parcel filled with…

“Something old, something new,
Something borrowed, something blue,
And a silver sixpence in her shoe.”

Inside the parcels ,each item is supposed to bring good luck to me and a happy marriage!

Something Old: A link of continuity to the bride’s past. It also represents the life being left behind to start a new beginning, but not forgetting where she has been and her family values.

She gave me a book which she bought them second hand!

Something New: Optimism and hope for the future. It conveys the bride’s wish to creating a union that will endure the test of time.

She gave me a necklace and handcream which are new! Haha.

Something Borrowed: Borrowing an item from a happily married woman to borrow her luck. It also symbolizes the love and adoration she has for the person she borrowed the item from, and that the bride can count on her family and friends for love and support.

She lend me another book which she loves!

Something Blue: A symbol of love, modesty, fidelity, luck, purity, loyalty.

The necklace she gave me is blue!

A Lucky Sixpence in her Shoe: A representation of the bride’s wealth and financial security. For optimal results, the sixpence should be worn in the left shoe.

I love this little trinklet best! According to Cheng wei, sixpence is almost equivalent to six pennies, six British cents, which is almost 20 Singapore cents! HAHA.

Thank you babe, for creating a parcel which is somethingforme, somethingIcansmileabout and all for somethingaboutrenes!

And yes, I will try to have an enjoyable wedding day (attempting to ignore all the perfectionist bride in me) and I will not forget my beloved SSSS. You girls are so special to me and I agree, somethingsdon’tchange!

He bought me lilies and I love it! It smells awesome! Thank you baby!

After eliminating all these factors, in my opinion, the answer might be forgiveness. Maybe when one learn to forgive the other for his/her shortcomings – only then they stay together.”

- SA (her blog address is private but her words of wisdom is worth sharing)

I am reposting a good friend’s blog post here because I totally agree with her and love it! Some may not agree but I think it is so true! Even though she is not the best person to give love advice (HAHAHA, don’t kill me girl) but if it is true from the heart, it is true. Similar to God’s love, it is also His grace and forgiveness which often holds us and pull us back into the light. I love it because it serves as a good reminder for us all!

What do you think? What in your opinion is the sticky glue in your relationship?

Note: Please turn your head away from the screen if you experience any giddiness from viewing the following pictures. My beauty may be a little challenging for most people to appreciate.

You can probably tell from our sleepy face that we woke up early for the rides! Hee.

And we were the first few in the queue!

I brought Diana mini along! Sunny day + Colour Place = Perfect place for Diana!

First stop Mummy Returns! When we walk in, he kept complaining that it looks more like a fright night trail instead of a theme park because there were no one else in the queue! HAHA.

Next stop, Jurassic Park! GRARR!

He is only interested in his genit…

We were drenched.

Happily drenched.

I want this but he refused to let this in to our house.

That’s you baby! My frog prince!

Muacks!

Just like this monkey, he enjoys reading newspaper and coffee!

Yes we took the ride, the Human side!

This fake Marilyn Monroe looks like a tranny! If it wasn’t for her sweet voice, I will not be convinced that she’s a real lady.

Random!

We had burgers! It was alright but a little overpriced.

This is what I hope to achieve in the future! Hee.